Friday, November 19, 2010

Witnessing with My Cover

INITIALLY POSTED ON September 19, 2010 on Facebook.

This was an email that I sent to someone a while back, but I always seem to get questions regarding: "How do you witness with that thing on your head? You can't relate. Plus, it turns people off!" WELL...Here's my answer. SO, bear with me cause it's a long ramble of thoughts!

Here are my thoughts regarding 1 Corinthians 9-10 in response to head covering, etc. :) Anyone reading this…you might want to have your bible handy. Sometime I will quote directly, other times I won’t. I generally use the NIV version in quoting. :)

Okay…So one of the first things that began to be a concern as I started wearing my cover was the issue of witnessing! I wasn’t sure how I was supposed to witness with “this thing” on my head, especially because I wouldn’t be in the “in crowd” any longer. This thought actually overwhelmed me to the point where I was finally “done” with the whole thing. SO…because God wouldn’t let me go more than 48 hours without wearing my cover, I started looking into witnessing with it on. The first verse that popped into mind was…1 Corinthians 9:22 which says, “…I have become all things to all men so that by all possible means I might save some.” However, Romans 12:2 also popped up in the middle of that thought…“Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing and perfect will.” So, how do I become all things to all men, yet not conform?

In my experiences at college, and even in HS, it didn’t matter what you looked like…as long as you were someone who didn’t cheat, lie, or turn your back on our friendship, you were good! What other people wore to school didn’t really matter. (NOW, what you chose to wear mattered for SURE!...Except for college…Then everyone dresses in their own way.) In college, other than the few people that will talk behind your back even though you are walking by them, MOST people don’t really care what you wear, how you do your hair, what color your hair is, etc! It helps that I am at a public school where a person has the right to do anything he/she wants to. (It really isn’t a right, but that’s how it is understood.) So, from that perspective, I am more adopting the view of “I have a right to do anything and so do you.” In a way, that it becoming like them. I can still relate to them. Once people get over any phobia they have towards me…often times, once they figure out that I’m a Christian, they are completely fine. As long as I don’t sit in the back or stand off to the side and seem like I don’t want to interact…I am fine. Once people see the “me” behind my cover, they are fine. They might even like me. And for those who have known me before the days of my cover, it’s a lil’ awkward the first time they see me with it on, but after that (and maybe a question), everyone is fine. They get used to it pretty quickly because it is college…“meh, you can do what you want, and I’ll do what I want” sorta thing. :)

I know it may seem really harsh to put it this way, but I don’t want to be like everyone else. We as Christians are supposed to stand out…and in order for my character to stand out as different, I have to have my cover on. It reminds me that I am no more that what a man is worth. It reminds me to watch every single action, every single word. The world is watching to know how a Christian is supposed to behave. My cover reminds me to be modest. It would look awfully funny for me to choose to wear a shirt that barely covers the “no zone” and still wear my headscarf. I choose not to cover my neck because I don’t find it to be necessary for modesty nor head covering. I am meant to be different….And this isn’t in the “everyone is different” sort of way. I am meant to radiate God’s love from me…and I can’t do that if I am constantly forgetful of being modest and thoughtful of my words and actions. I can’t tell you how many times I have sinned with this cover on and IMMEDIATELY known it…Some of the things I have done, I never actually recognized them as sins before. Through wearing the cover, I am being transformed by the Holy Spirit. I am growing closer to God through constant prayers and the reminder that I am “being watched.” Anyhow, I’m sorta getting off topic, but what I said totally relates to 1 Corinthians 10:23-24. For me, head covering is beneficial. It helps me focus on God throughout the ENTIRE day, not just whenever I squeeze in my devotion time. It helps me to give God my entire day, and really…my entire life. It’s the reminder that God is present not just when I go to church or in devotion time, but also when I’m standing in line for food, or texting (I mean sitting) in class, or talking with someone. For my life, and the lives of those around me, my head covering is beneficial and constructive…

As for the rest of that passage…1 Cor 10:31-33

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks, or the church of God – even as I try to please everybody in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved.”

This passage reminds me of four words (Actually, three words…cause one repeats itself.) “LOVE GOD; LOVE PEOPLE.” Some wise guy told me that as the abbreviated version of what our entire lives are about as Christians. No matter who you consult, or what commentary you go to, our number one priority on this earth is to love God. John 14:21 says, “Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will show my love to him.” I love God by obeying what He has shown to me in regards to head covering. Even if I can’t prove it Scripturally, God can still ask me to do this and has reaffirmed it multiple times. Ha. This is something I believe is Scriptural, so I believe that even though there is one passage about head covering, it still rings true. (There’s only one verse about God creating the world, but we as Christians don’t doubt that?!...Nor any other passage that is only mentioned one time, etc.) By obeying this passage and what He has set in my heart for me to do, I am loving Him. One of the ways we can love God is by loving people. By serving. By bringing them into a relationship with the Creator. Out of our love from God overflows service. Because of what God has done for me, it is now that I can cover my head and love people for who they are. I can still relate to their stories, because I have been there. But, I’m not going to back down from covering my head merely because I don’t “look” like everyone else. I don’t mind looking different. I don’t mind being different…especially if it is a SIMPLE way for me to love God as He points out sin in my life and helps me focus on His constant presence. God asked me to cover my head…Now, He can show me how to be obedient not only to the call of head covering, but also to the call to love people. He obviously wants both in my life right now. I will please people to the best of my ability, until it messes with loving and obeying God.

Submission & Obedience

INITIALLY WRITTEN ON SEPT. 19, 2010 and posted on Facebook.

Received this question from a dear friend who asked it to be made into a note. SO FINALLY...Here's my reply to this question: How do you rationalize wearing a head covering to show your submission to God and to your future husband with being a pastor and leading men at a church?

I honestly appreciate when people ask me questions about my head covering as a Christian woman. To answer this question, I do not choose to wear a cover to show submission. I suppose one could say that I cover in obedience to God, but not in the way that submission would take effect. I cover in obedience to His Word (1 Corinthians 11) and in obedience to the Spirit’s nudges to take this Scripture literally. As much as I respect any future husband I may be blessed with, I do not and will not cover in submission to him. I believe in a woman submitting to her husband as in Scripture via Ephesians 5 (and others), but I do not believe that I need to cover my head in submission to any man on this earth (whether it be my father now, or my husband later). With that being said, head covering is something between God and I that we work out daily as a step closer to perfection.

Okay. Because I do not wear my head covering for submission, the next part of the question does not make much sense with leading men within a church as a pastor. However, I have had quite a few people ask me about pastoral ministry with my head covering. Here are my thoughts: Obviously there were women leaders within the early church according to the Apostle Paul’s writings. These women covered their head when praying or prophesying which they would have generally done in a church. I also feel like covering my head “equalizes” me with a man because it gives me a “symbol of authority.” The Scriptures say that man and woman are equal in the Lord. Also, why would the Apostle Paul ask women to cover their heads when praying or prophesying if they weren’t allowed to do so during worship?!

SCRIPTURE:

“For this reason a woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels. Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man or man independent of woman. For just as woman came from man, so man comes through woman; but all things come from God.” (1 Corinthians 11:10-12, NRSV)

“There is no longer Jew or Greek, there is no longer slave or free, there is no longer male and female; for all of you are one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28, NRSV).

So, I do not wear my head covering as a sign of submission, but I wear it in obedience to His Word and as a sign of authority for the angels (1 Cor. 11:10). I wear it as a reminder to pray continuously (1 Thess. 5:17). I wear it for God. I do not wear it for people.

Surgery, Scarves, & Somewhat Similar Stuff

I thought I would catch-up my blog on what's been happening and what will be happening. Hopefully I won't bore you! :)
Since we last spoke, I have made it through Day 100...so today is Day 104 of head covering. What the most exciting part of it all was that I got NEW covers which arrived (*I planned it that way*) on Day 100! Honestly, I have fallen IN LOVE with them! I really like wearing pashmina scarves, but I wanted something similar...but different. I love my new covers enough to wear them often, though they are more different than first intended. The one covering that I haven't become adjusted to enough to wear out of my room is my amira (see picture). I like it on me, but I am not sure I am ready to wear it out in the "real world." I think part of it is that I look, yet again, "very Muslim" in an amira. Some people truly see this as a bad thing. However, there is sooo much more than that involved in wearing any sort of a covering on one's head. My best friend told me last night that I look good with my head covered. It took me a while to accept that someone might actually like my covering. I've gotten so much "crap" about it (especially in the beginning) that it was something I had to commit myself to do, or else I would fail miserably. So hearing someone honestly say that they like it is DEFINITELY a plus! Head covering, for me, is very different from what most people would assume. It has a part to play in modesty, but that is one of the LAST things on my list. I have never felt the need to cover more than my hair. Some women find it necessary to cover her neck or even their entire body shape. I don't. It's more to me than modesty. It's more to me than a rule. Technically speaking, I don't HAVE to cover my head. My religion does not require it. I will not be beaten if I leave my home with my head uncovered. Head covering isn't a rule for me. Nor do I hold other people to this imaginary rule. Head covering has become more than a witness tool. Head covering has a HUGE part in my life because of the role it does play. I am able to hear from God more clearly. I am able to relate to other women who cover their heads no matter what religion they claim. I am able to recognize sin in a way that isn't judgmental of anyone other than myself. And most of all, I am able to humble myself. It isn't that my hair is my pride. But the action of doing something different than MOST Americans is truly humbling. I have guys that open doors for me when I have NO CLUE who they might be. Are they the kind of guys who open doors for everyone? Probably not. I am able to be respected in a way that most people aren't. However, the experience is more than being treated better. It's realizing that God will provide in miscellaneous ways that remind me that I am one, small human being (literally!), yet that I can be used when I humble myself before Him in obedience.
I have found that living for Jesus is not always easy. Sometimes, He asks you to do things that you really would rather not do. This is about the 4th thing He's asked me to do that I have tried my hardest not to do. I have failed miserably each time. And life is not the greatest until I do so. Anyhow...enough with that. BUT...One more question and I'll move on to everything else I'd like to talk about...As I was walking on campus today, I realized something that is more of a confession than anything. I sometimes feel ashamed. Not because of what God has done...and I am by no means ashamed of God. But, I am ashamed of Christianity as a religion and as a people. I don't know which I prefer to be recognized as...a Christian or a Muslim...both can be horrible people or absolutely amazing and strong in their beliefs. That is one thing that I have learned about the Islam population on campus: They are INCREDIBLY strong. They have to know what they believe in, and be willing to be ridiculed when it doesn't agree with what someone else believes. It makes me sick to think that we waste so many opportunities every day because we don't want to offend anyone or make them feel uncomfortable. People will be burning in hell because we don't upset the norm. Public Service Announcement: THE NORM IS NOT GOD'S WAY!!! It never has been and will never be until we get off our rear-ends and be the people God has called us to be...The people He CREATED us to be!
Alright...well, now that I've stepped off my soap-box...My best friend is having surgery on Wednesday, November 24th. I would sincerely appreciate it if you would say a prayer for Nichole. This will be my first actual hospital experience. Yes, I've been to hospitals and briefly visited people. But, I've not been the one in the waiting room waiting for a loved one to get out of surgery (Yes, I love her...she's my best friend and knows me inside and out!). I've never been there for anyone when the anesthesia wears off. I've never done any of it. I'm definitely new to it. And to a point, I'm scared that I will screw up. She says that she isn't scared for the surgery, so that's good...BUT that means I'm more scared than she is, even with the small amount of nerves that I have built over the past couple of weeks. On a good note: I'm getting together my Surgery Day Fun Box...and this process is fun in itself! :)
I think that's all I have for you for now...Let me know what you're thoughts are...comment!!! And please remember to say a prayer for Nichole...and you don't have to wait for the 24th to start...she would appreciate them now too as the pain is ridiculous from the diseases she suffers from. Anyhow...Thanks for reading! Shabbat Shalom! Happy Friday!!!

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Existence on YouTube

Hey! Today is day 98 of headcovering and all seems to be going well. I had another affirmation Thursday night, so I am super excited about that! It was a good reminder of why I wear my cover and how God is working through my learning experience!

I watched the Mizzou and K-State game today. Haven't sat and watched college football in a long time! It was a good refresher of the college student inside me!

At half-time, I made my first YouTube video with my new toy! YAY for getting a webcam! I'm excited about it all...but, I love writing, so the blogging world will not be neglected by my seemingly new video blog! :) I don't think I'm great with cameras...I think it's weird to talk to myself (even if it is for the Internet world), so I don't know how many videos or how often I will make them!? So, I guess we shall see! LOL.

here's the link to the new video if you wanna keep up with me on YouTube...my username is "ReclaimedExistence." The video is posted on here below. :)


Wednesday, November 10, 2010

The Renovating Surgery

Ezekiel 36:26-27 (NIV) – “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws.”

Let me start by telling you how much I utterly ADORE car accidents! NOT! Monday, I was in a car accident. We’ll make the story brief…the lady in front of me had on her brakes and I didn’t notice! Thus, I rear-ended this nice looking Honda. Now, I’ve never been a fan of Honda, but the lady seemed very distraught that I had accidentally (Hint: That’s why it’s called an accident!) broken one of her brake lights. The accident was definitely my fault. There is absolutely NO ONE I can blame for it. Obviously, I can’t blame the pretty looking trees or the vehicle that was definitely tailgating in my rearview mirror. (I’m surprised he didn’t rear end me!) Long story made short…My car is looking quite sad right now. My bumper is kinda hangin’ off and I have to CLIMB into the driver’s seat from another door.

One thing I love about this Scripture from Ezekiel 36 is that this cleansing that happens when we begin to follow God is shown clearly as a process. I can ASSURE you that the moment you ask for forgiveness that you’ve been forgiven by God. But, the process of chipping away the sin in one’s life takes more than just a couple words. It’s the climbing over the other seats phase.

Surgeries don’t generally last a minute and a half…patients’ loved ones spend hours waiting in a room that’s intense as ever waiting to hear news from the doctor. Surgeries take time. (I say this as I make plans to spend all day at a hospital with a dear friend when she has surgery…lol.) God is talking about a heart surgery. A surgery that will turn our hearts of stone into a living heart full of the Spirit. It isn’t an overnight surgery either.

Somehow I wish I could truly say “I’m sorry” and those words magically fix both vehicles as well as any repercussions of the accident. While I may be forgiven by the lady whose car I hit, I still have to deal with climbing over seats in order to drive my damaged car…like we sometimes drive our sin-filled lives. Until I take my car into the shop to get repairs done, it will still be damaged and cause me heartache every day as I remember my mistake and let it impair me. Let’s not wait too long to take our heart to God and let Him fix it and turn it into something so much better than what you have to offer. Beware, the surgery isn’t an overnight surgery, but it’s totally worth it!

Forgiven on the spot…Renovating surgery – forever. Won’t you begin the procedure today?